How to get rid of fear
Thank you for having me here today at the DX Done Right Podcast Show. We learn the most when we push ourselves to the limit of our talents and our comfort zones. Why do we find it so difficult to step outside of our comfort zone? According to a study, fear is one of the most common roadblocks to being a great learner. It’s the dread of appearing awful, of the unknown, of messing up, and of not succeeding. That’s one of the primary reasons we like to do things in familiar surroundings. You don’t have to be afraid of anything. This is a skill that anyone can learn, but the method we use is quite different from what you might expect.
Today, I’d like to make a simple point. Our goal is to bring together what science says about fear and how humans usually think about it. First, let’s speak about the source of our dread. The amygdala, a part of our brain, is the source of this automatic response. Our brainstem is just next to it. A pair of almonds would be an accurate description of its size. We need it to survive. We wouldn’t be here without it. So when a baseball batter inadvertently throws their bat into the stands, most of us instinctively duck.This is one of the most prevalent ways that our brains keep us safe. At work, here is what I call our lizard brain. It’s fast and responsive. When it identifies a danger, it instills terror in the mind of the victim. We hunker down and squirm. Since it’s just around two millimeters high, I’m also able to stroll around the edge of this dot without feeling any discomfort. If that were 150 feet high, I’d be in consternation right now.
“Dude, stay away from the edge of the cliff,” my animal brain tells me. As a result of our amygdala’s inability to distinguish between positive challenges and negative threats, our default strategy is to avoid both. Fear, uncertainty, and a shift in focus are all brought on by four distinct types of triggers. The premise here is that dread will be present if all four of these variables are present. We can all agree that those four characteristics might define a potentially dangerous circumstance, but they’re also present in the finest learning opportunities, as you point out. When we perform and compete in the arts and music, they’re always there to support us. When fear is prevalent, it is because these four aspects are involved in the learning process. This is a strategy I refer to as “downgrading the fight.”
Instead of writing a new blog post, I’ll clean my house three times. I’m remaining active, but I’m going with the path that requires less effort, uncertainty, focus, or attention. My automobile does this very bizarre thing when I get home from work, which is why I wake up in the morning and say, “I’m going to prepare a nutritious dinner today.” After seeing the Chipotle, the snake starts scooping and pulling. Right then and there, that’s what my reptile brain was up to! I’m given the option to choose. In the meantime, I could eat something salty, fatty, and wonderful, or I could go to the market, purchase the ingredients, and then make fun of my predicament. Because it’s the driving force behind many of our actions and decisions, this is a problem.
“Avoiding ambiguity” is what I’m referring to. “It has been an amazing privilege to teach these kinds of studies and ideas throughout the world to hundreds of organizations.” To name just a few of my past experiences, I’ve worked for major league baseball teams, Fortune 500 corporations, and even high school kids of various grades. This was something that we drilled into their heads. He stood up and began to speak. According to him, he participates in baseball, and “every game I tell my coach that I want to play in right field since no one ever hits a ball there.” Because of my fear of making a mistake when someone smacks a ball directly at my chest, he asked me to play infield. Shared by an adolescent high schooler
Finally, she made it through to the last round of selection. Because of this, fear prevents us from experiencing one of life’s greatest joys: stepping up on stage and singing our favorite song. Applying for a job and going through the interview process are valuable experiences regardless of whether we get the job or not. Our concerns get in the way every day, no matter what we’re doing or who we are. “ Fears deprive us of the possibility of progress. “The middle of nothing” is a nickname for Lander, Wyoming, where I grew up. I’ve wanted to attend Duke University since I was in fifth grade, and from fifth through twelfth grade, I was completely preoccupied with that goal.
After a lengthy application process and a trip to North Carolina, I was admitted to my chosen school and began my first year of academics there. When I was in class, I never spoke. To be honest, I used to talk about this in a different way. When I was younger, I used to encourage others to be strong and fearless. You’re sitting in the lobby before your ideal job interview. Before you enter, you’re sitting there. Is that interview important to you? It’s probably not going to happen. There’s some haziness about this… Yes, that’s possible. You might be wrong. There appears to be some interest in that area. It’s possible that you’ll feel something sewn into your skin. Isn’t it easy to feel ashamed of yourself if everyone around you is encouraging you to be courageous and not to be afraid?
“Oh, I’m not meant to feel like this,” you might think as you sit there. There must be a problem. I’m not ready. I can’t be. As a result, I’m afraid that I’m the only one who feels this way, which can lead to an even worse sense of isolation. Fearing a major job interview, performance, or speech doesn’t imply anything is wrong with us; it just shows we’re human. That is the most significant shift we hope to bring about. As a result, we’re more willing to put ourselves in those situations, and we’re more likely to do the things that help us develop, learn, and improve. The trouble is that when the lizard is driving, it sees many learning opportunities as dangers. I believe it’s amazing.
The lizard sees all obstacles, challenges, and changes as threats. When danger is detected, we devise a strategy to evade it. A lot of those things are actually great chances if we put the lizard back in the car and take the wheel ourselves. As long as we see them as chances to learn and improve, we’re more inclined to take advantage of them.
This, too, is a talent, which means that we can work on it. If we regard this as a skill, we may begin to practice asking the question even though we’re afraid, and volunteering for the project even though we’re afraid. When we do it more frequently, we’re preparing ourselves for the larger jumps we’ll have to do later. Everybody’s a work in progress. No, I’m not suggesting we stay in tonight and try something new.